What To Do?

by Tiffany
(Florida)

I am an overweight divorced mother of two. I believe in a higher power, yet I believe there is more I need to do, but this is where I am stuck.

I get angry, agitated and mad easily. I do not want to be this way, but this is what I do. I ignore, isolate, bottle it up then explode. I do not physically harm my children but the emotional abuse is worse than if I physically abused them.


I love people, but am tired of being walked over. I have issues with men--they degrade me. I think because I have bottled all this anger up and that is why I am so angry and explosive. I put high expectations on people and they disappoint me always.

I have not rammed a car, been arrested for assault or physically harmed anyone. But I do not want to snap either.

My sister, through my teenage years and up, physically and emotionally abused me. I then "married my sister" (of course in a male form) and also received physical and emotional abuse in my marriage.

I believe all this emotional abuse has taken over. I don't want to be hurt any more. I am not in denial, just stuck on what to do. What's my next step?






Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Tiffany, and thanks for telling your story here. I can tell that you're a good person, who wants to do the right thing for yourself and your children.

Take a look at my advice to this mother, and I think you'll find it useful in your situation.

Please follow all of the recommendations I gave her, and I think you will find tremendous healing and relief in that process.

I also suggest you read the following page, and see what you find helpful there: quotes on relationships

Emotional healing will help you with everything you're dealing with in your life, Tiffany. Use these techniques, and you will feel better.

Focus on your good heart at the beginning of each day, and make up your mind to be kind and loving to your children.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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