Sound Or silence

by Chelsea
(Austin )

I have always been the person that holds on to things, and at a later date I blow up for that thing, plus whatever else I just got mad for.

I've been in an abusive relationship before, so now I catch myself holding my feelings back more than ever. That's what saved my life plenty of times, but it was also the reason I got hurt sometimes.


I am finding myself afraid to speak to most people (men), because with a shattered mind comes low or no trust.

I feel like this issue is affecting my current relationship. I just get upset, because I feel like everyone is always talking, and I'm forced to be silent because no one is willing to listen, or no one cares. All this holding information is unhealthy, and I'm tired of doing it.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Chelsea, and thanks for telling your story here--and breaking your silence. I strongly encourage and support you in your decision to express yourself.

I suggest you start with the three part journaling process you will find on this page. That will help you to write about all of the abuse and trauma you have been through in the past, process your anger and shift your mental focus.

Also use these imagery processes for emotional healing, to help resolve some of the trauma from your past. I strongly encourage you to use these tools repeatedly, since the more you use them the more benefit you will receive.

Expressing yourself is a way of honoring and respecting yourself, Chelsea. How you feel about yourself may be the most important aspect of your life.

Believe in yourself, Chelsea. Put yourself first from this moment forward, and you will have more to bring to everyone you know.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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