She Was Like A Sister To Me

by Paige
(London)

Everyone keeps on telling me to forgive this girl. Me and her used to be good friends. I was her only true friend and everyone around me kept telling me this girl is not your real friend. But I did not listen.

To cut the story short, she slept with my ex and she knew how much I loved him. And the worst thing is that she tried to make herself look like the victim, claiming he raped her. Her story was the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard, she said she was asleep and she doesn't remember having sex with him, so it means he raped her!


What a stupid girl. She even went to the police, but the case was dropped because there was not enough evidence, her story did not make sense at all. My ex apologized to me for sleeping with her, but she is not sorry because she actually put in her head that she was raped.

I think she is just an attention seeker! Since then she is trying to be friends with me again, but that will never happen! I'm in a process of forgiving her but I will never be friends with someone so evil.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Paige, and thanks for telling your story here. I know it hurts when the person you love cheats on you. I think I can help you with your anger and forgiveness.

From reading your story, it sounds like you're a lot more angry at this girl than you are at your ex. That's a problem you may want to look at. If you're denying the pain of what he did to you, then you're loading too much anger into blaming the girl. You have even made her "evil" in your mind, when it sounds like your ex is just as responsible as she is.

If you disagree with what I'm saying, disregard this. If you agree, then you might want to tell your ex how you really feel about what he did.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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