How An Irate Mother Manages Her Wrath

by Asha
(Palani, Tamilnadu, India)

Remove the "d" from danger, and you can spell "anger". Whenever I am angry, I keep my mouth shut because it is very easy to speak words which cannot be taken back. Everybody faces situations when he or she is irate over incidents or another person’s behavior. But controlling anger takes time and patience since it is not advisable to restrain your irritation.

John Rivers quotes that anger is a symptom, a way of cloaking and expressing feelings too awful to experience directly – hurt, bitterness, grief and most of all, fear”. I generally control my emotions to the maximum extent possible but due to silly matters, I get angry. A proverb cites that great anger is much more destructive than the sword. True to it, I suffer severe mental anguish due to my anger.


I am angry with my children for not getting ready on time for school. This is the usual story everyday since they sleep extremely behind schedule and get up later than they should. The stress created during that time is terrible. I have tried almost all methods of waking them but it is useless because they have a busy schedule during the day. At night, they cannot resist watching their favorite television programs. In the morning, they plead for a little more time to sleep.

In spite of all the tension created during morning hours, I steal some time after sending my children to school to relax myself by listening to gentle music. I inhale fresh air and remind myself that my family depends on my support and that there are people who lead lives in shoddier conditions. And I hope that as they grow up, the situation improves.





Response from Dr. DeFoore

Thanks for your contribution, Asha. You obviously love your children a lot, and that's why you work so hard to manage your anger and try not to hurt them. Your story will help others, and that is something else for you to feel good about!

Giving is receiving, and I hope you receive as you have given. One of the best ways to heal is to offer help to others, and that's what you're doing here--which is what this web site is all about.

Thank you again for your contribution.

My best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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