A Young Boy In Our School Can't Control His Temper

by Anonymous

A young boy in our school flips his desk over, yells at the teacher and others just out of the blue. It seems like he just explodes with no warning. How do we deal with him?


Response from Dr. DeFoore

Please write again, and tell me more about who you are and what your relationship to the boy is. That would help me to help more.

Meanwhile, I can recommend that someone spend some individual time with this boy. He needs one-on-one attention from a caring, concerned and strong adult.

He needs loving and strong discipline in the classroom as well. But mostly he needs someone to bond with, so that he can tell his story. There is something going on in his life and he feels out of control about it. If he can tell his story to someone who cares, this will really help.

Depending on how bad his problem is, he may also need some counseling or family counseling. Family counseling is always the best, when that is possible.

Please write again with more information.

My best to you in your efforts to help this child,

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

Angry Teen Son In Conflict With His Father

by Karla
(Columbus, OH)

My son is 16. He has a lot of problems controlling his outbursts when he is angry. He is ADHD, but that is the least of the problems.

He has been physically violent. He has taken a bat and beaten his dad's truck with it. He gets very upset for the slightest things. He doesn't get along with his dad at all.

He even asked the other day if I could help him find a way to get this under control.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Karla, and thanks for telling your story here. It sounds like your son is really having trouble, and it's great that he wants some help.

Ideally, he and his dad would get some counseling together, to work on their relationship. Check your resources and see if that is a possibility in your area, or contact us for more information.

If he's really serious about getting help, and if you're willing to support him in this, he may want to sign up for online anger management classes. He can choose from 8, 12, 16 or 26 hour classes.

You and your husband might want to check out the audio program below. Just click on the image, and listen to free previews or get your copy now.

See your son at his best in your mind, Karla. Trust him to come through this better off on the other side. Focus on your own life and happiness, and trust him to do what he needs to do for himself.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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