This Stupid Feeling

by Kathryn
(St. Louis)

Have you ever had this feeling that nobody cares about what you think or how you feel? I know this feeling ALL too well. In order for you to understand me you have to know a little about me.

I am the second oldest of 5 girls. When I was younger I lived with my grandpa in the country. My dad had some serious problems with drugs and with the law so my grandpa put him out of the house. Then my mom moved us to the city and we lived in an apartment for 3 or 4 years, Until DFS took us away from my mom.


My mom's dad took us in and then he finally adopted us. So I have been living with my mom's dad and his wife since I was 5 or 6. We were told that we couldn't see our real parents.

My mom (real mom) and my dad (her dad) worked something out so that we could see her. Then on september 17, 2009 my older sister moved out, the day she turned 17. Ever since then I've felt like nobody understands me.

I want to move out but if I do then I can't finish high school and I really want to finish high school.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Kathryn, and thanks for telling your story here. You have had a lot of abandonment in your life, and it is completely natural that you feel like nobody cares about what you think and how you feel.

The important thing is that you care. And when you really think about it, there are others who care too. They are just not that good at showing it.

You sound like a smart girl, Kathryn. I'm really glad you want to finish high school.

I suggest you start doing the positive journaling process described on this page every single day. And if you feel angry, do the exercise described on this page.

I promise you that if you do these writing exercises, you will feel a lot better. You will even start to feel love for yourself.

You are worthy of love, just because you are who you are. And there is a lot of goodness inside you. Focus on that.

Make up your mind what kind of life you want to have, set your mind and heart to that vision of your future, and don't let anything stop you. You can do it.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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