Reliving My Childhood And Trying To Heal My Inner Child

by KSM
(Canada)

I'm a beautiful, young woman. I've been sober for 8 years and recently celebrated my belly button birthday of 30 years.

I am struggling.


I dove into some intense inner childhood healing (John Bradshaw) while also utilizing (ACOA ~ adult children of Alcoholics). I am in a relationship, in which I love the man. But I am angry and living out, acting out and filled with the rage from my childhood.

I feel like I am living with past feelings in current situations. I am running in fear and absolutely angry. In all of my time sober and clean I can honestly say this is the hardest time emotionally.

I sabotage. I need honest opinions of healing and positive change and further suggestions, because eventually I will have no one but me again.



Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello KSM, and thanks for telling your story here. Congratulations on your 8 years of sobriety, and your courage to do the inner child healing work. That can certainly stir up some deep and powerful emotions, which sounds like exactly what is happening with you.

I will try to help. I don't know if I can offer exactly what you need, that is for you to decide. I will recommend some processes, and you can see if they work for you where you are.

You may have already done some of this, but nevertheless this is what I recommend:

1) Do all three of the journaling processes described on this page. This will help you review all past trauma (which I think you're already doing), give your anger a regular, healthy outlet (which you may not be doing), and begin shifting your focus to the good in yourself and your life (which you probably are not doing).

2) these imagery processes for emotional healing regarding your past trauma.

If you don't do any of the above, at least do the positive journaling process. This will really help you with everything you're going through.

I hope you find this helpful. Believe in yourself, set your intentions clearly, and make up your mind to create the well being you desire. You can do it.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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