My Parents Don't Think I Have An Anger Problem But I Do

by Bonnie

My name is Bonnie and I have been having some problems with my anger for a while now. At first I would beat up my sisters when I got mad at someone, and sometimes I wasn't even mad at my sisters I was just..... mad.

After my sisters moved out I started hurting my friends. I hated hurting them though because they would stop being my friend so instead of inflicting pain on others I started inflicting pain on myself. My parents don't think I have anger management issues, but some of my teachers, friends, and even myself thinks I do. I want to stop but I just can't. I need help.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Bonnie, and thanks for telling your story here. You sound like a smart girl, and I think you can do some things that will help you with your anger.

You will find the steps you need to take described on this FAQ page. Please follow each step carefully, and do all of the exercises. This will help you, but only if you use the tools.

To help with the "trauma writing," try writing out your answer to these questions:

1) What are your earliest worst memories?

2) Who did you love the most growing up, and how did they treat you?

3) Describe any sexual or physical abuse you experienced.

4) Describe any experiences of abandonment or neglect.

5) Who loved you the most? What happened in that relationship?

6) What are the memories you keep going back to in your mind? Write about those in full detail.

It's all about using your good heart and mind to address your wounds, and practicing the techniques on a regular basis.

You are worthy of a good life, Bonnie. You can do this.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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