My Boyfriend Can't Stand The Way I Treat Him

by Samantha
(California)

Me and my loving boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years now. When we first got together I screwed him over by kissing another guy. He got very angry at me and broke up with me, telling me that, "I crushed his heart."


A month later he got back together with me. When we got back together we definitely had problems. We always fought because of what I did. Well over the course of our relationship, we started getting better. Slowly but surely, we stopped fighting over what I did, but now my anger for my dad just recently caused us to break up.

I took my anger that I had for my dad out on him. I have serious anger issues and I know I need help. I'm afraid that if I don't get help and if I don't change soon that I'll lose him forever and neither of us want that.

I love him with all of my heart and I know he needs me to get help and change, because if I don't he'll never want to be in a relationship with me again. And I know that hurts both of us. Please help me.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Samantha, and thanks for telling your story here. I respect how you're taking responsibility for your anger in your story. That is the first step to change.

Start by doing all of the exercises described on this FAQ page. These are powerful and effective techniques, but they only work if you use them consistently. Make up your mind to get well, and use these tools, and you will see good results.

Since you have issues with your dad, it will also help you to complete the processes described on this page, which will help you let go emotionally of both of your parents.

I hope this helps you, Samantha. You sound like a good person, who really wants to get better. You need to do this for yourself, by the way, not for your boyfriend.

You can do this, Samantha. Set your mind and good heart to it, and do not give up until you've reached your goals.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore