It Can't Be Too Late For Us

by Chris
(Atlanta)

My girlfriend and I of three years are in a bad place. When we first met, we were both in bad spots. Emotionally, professionally, and financially.

We essentially saved each others’ lives. Our love for each other is amazing. I've never loved someone so much, and vice versa. We truly are best friends.


In the beginning however, I wasn’t ready for a serious relationship and I was both physically and mentally abusive. I pushed her away, and then she cheated on me. The cheating led to more abuse and eventually my seeking counseling.

I've done a complete 180 and am completely in love. I'm never on edge anymore (until recent help, I suffered from extreme anxiety). Like I said, we truly are best friends, and we tell each other everything.

The problem is that she has reached a point where she loves me, but she's not in love with me anymore. Because of past abuse, she doesn't fully trust me and pulls away any time we start to be intimate.

She comes from a family of failed relationships, and I know she's scared. We truly are an amazing pair if we can get past the past. The love is there, but she doesn't believe it.

Is there anything we can do? We both have things to work on, but I didn't think giving up is the answer.