He Only Wanted A Green Card & Now He Left Me

by Sara
(Chicago)

I was in a great relationship with a guy I met through graduate school. He came here from another country with the intention of finding a job and getting married. He wasn't sure about a relationship so I waited patiently for him to be sure.

Finally, he was sure about it and we started dating. Everything was so amazing for the most part. Little did I know that he had issues with me that I did not know about. Once we got engaged, I realized all of these issues that he had with me when he demanded I sign a prenup. He did not have any money or assets. He did not trust me.

Eventually, he got fed up with the issues he had with me. I tried to change, but the change did not come fast enough. He dumped me. I thought that I could get him back.

I didn't understand how you could go from wanting to marry someone in June to dumping them in August. It didn't make sense to me. The only thing I could think of is that he never really loved me and was just trying to get a green card.

I feel like I dodged a bullet, but I am so angry about it. I feel that I gave everything to our relationship only to get completely burned. I relocated to a new city that we were supposed to be living in together. He stayed behind.

I tried to get him to come back to me but he has refused. He led me on for a while saying that we could work it out and get back together, but something changed and he decided he's completely over me. Now he won't take my calls or anything.

He has completely cut me out of his life and I'm miserable. I am in a new place with no friends and having to just live with all of the pain I feel every day. He has turned his whole family against me and blamed me for the demise of our relationship. He’s saying it's all my fault and he wants nothing to do with me. I want to get his parents deported back to Europe. They are here illegally and they hate me. Why do they deserve to be in this country, and their son is here and just completely destroyed me?

I will do anything to take this pain away. I feel equally as miserable as I did the day we broke up. I don't know what to do.

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