A Grandmothers Journey With An Angry Grandson

by Brenda
(Jacksonville NC)

Galen is my 12 year old grandson. My daughter and her 3 sons have lived with us since Jan 11 2011 when she left her husband, Galen's father.

Galen has been diagnosed with anger management issues. He has stolen funds using my credit card. He takes his anger out on who he is mad at by destroying something of theirs.


My daughter works full time, as do I, but I work from home.

I need help. How do I learn how to get Galen to a better emotional framework?

Thank You


Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Brenda, and thanks for telling your story here. I know this situation can be very frustrating. I will try to help.

One thought is, if at all possible, your daughter might do better if she lives on her own. Every situation is unique, but many times when adult sons or daughters live with their parents, it does not go well. This is because of their need for independence and self respect, which cannot be met as long as they are relying on a parent or parents.

Regarding your grandson, I highly recommend that you and your daughter both learn as much as you can about child anger management. There are no easy answers or quick fixes, but you can definitely help your grandson by learning some skills for dealing with him.

It's also very important that you try to find family therapy services for your daughter and her children. This type of anger problem can often be a result of unresolved emotions following a divorce.

If you and your daughter want the best possible program to learn the necessary skills for helping your grandson with his anger, I highly recommend that you learn to understand and respond in the best possible ways. This program (below) will help.

Believe in yourself, your daughter and your grandson, Brenda. Try to focus on the best in all of you, and that will help.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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