I'm The Middle Child And Get Blamed For Everything

by Ryan
(NC, USA)

It seems like for the past 2 years I have been in a lot more stressful situations. A lot of my issues come from my family.

I'm not sure how to write it, but it can play out in my mind easily. I have what I have heard is the middle child syndrome. I don't think it's real but I think it makes since.

Basically every time there is an argument between me and my sister or my brother, I'm always the cause, and it upsets me a lot. And I tend to yell and cuss.


I cuss a lot when I'm angry with the situation to make it feel like I'm getting my point across. My feelings are hurting on the inside and none of my family understands. I don't know what to say to them any more because every time I try to talk they just tell me to calm down and don't worry about it.

But then when a situation is brought up and I'm in it, I try not to say anything and someone throws my name out. I get really upset. And I get upset with myself when I say stuff I don't want to.

I try and move on but it's always something new. I'm ill, I'm hurt, and I wish my family and I could just get along. I feel like I'm the red head step child, but what would it be like if I was gone? How would they feel then? Would they care?

I don't know the answers to everything but I know sometimes I do want to just give up. But I know the lord wouldn't want that. So I keep myself happy for him above.




Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Ryan, and thanks for telling your story here. I think you'll find the help you need from our FAQ page. Follow those recommendations if they seem to fit for you.

Otherwise, keep the faith as you have been. You can't go wrong with that. The power of faith and optimism cannot be over estimated. When you have a positive focus for your future, you will look for ways to make that come true.

Your ability to influence your own future with faith and optimism is far greater than the influence of your birth order.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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