I'm Only 13 And I Can't Control My Anger

by Starr
(Texas)

Well I get mad at the slightest thing. My sister was wearing my shorts and I threw things.

I always remember something bad that happened to me and when I really think about it I get really upset.


I don't know how to tell my mom that I think I need anger management. And I might be bipolar, because I went to sleep and woke up with a huge burn. I don't know how I got it. But its huge.

I hate school because there's things that make me angry. I hate people when they chew gum. I hate feet tapping. I hate types of noises that bug me. And I have no clue why.

Thanks for reading. I've never done this, so tell me if I can do anything about my anger if you can. Thanks.





Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Starr, and thanks for telling your story here. I think the most important thing is for you to address the bad thing that happened that you always remember, and that makes you so upset. I think your anger might be coming from that and perhaps other things that relate to that.

Start by doing the three journaling processes on this page, and use these imagery processes to help yourself heal from the trauma you went through.

These are powerful tools, Starr, if you use them enough to get good at using them. I hope you will give them a serious try, because I think there's a good chance they will help.

I also think it would be good if you could tell your mom what happened to you, especially if you think she'll believe you and support you. It would also be good to tell a school counselor, or another counselor if you have one.

Your anger is coming out of your pain. Please take action to heal your pain, or the anger and your pain will just get worse.

You're a good person, Starr, and you're worthy of a good life. You don't have to do this alone. Please reach out for help to people who you trust.

Believe in yourself, and the healing goodness in your heart. It's there, and it's who you are.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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