I See Red When I'm Angry But I'm Not Too Sure What I Need

by Jordan
(Hartcliffe, Bristol)

I'm not too sure on what my anger is. One minute I can be fine and then the next minute I could be lashing out.

I have gone for my sisters in the past and I have also gone for my boyfriends brother with my heel. I don't get why I am like this.


When I am angry I don't even see blank, I see red and just go for it. Even when I am arguing I will not stop until I have shut them up. The littlest of things tend to make me angry.

I have been told by my relatives that when I am angry I am disgusting and that is unlike myself as I am usually very bubbly and love to socialize. I have been told many of times that I need anger management classes or whatever you call them and I have never listened but I have lost my partner because of my anger.

I need and want to do something about but not to sure how.



Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Jordan, and thanks for telling your story here. It's good that you're asking for help. You're smart to take some action to get better control of your anger, so that you can get along better with others. I will try to help.

If you want a do it yourself approach, that you can start right now, here are some steps you can take on this FAQ page. Follow each step carefully, and take this very seriously, and you will benefit. If you feel you need more guidance along the way, then I suggest that you sign up for these online anger management classes--they even have special classes for teens. These are great classes, that you can take right there on your computer or ipad.

Believe in yourself, Jordan. You have a good heart, which is why you want to get along better with others.

You can do this. Picture the good person you want to be, and make up your mind to be that person all of the time, and you will succeed.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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