Who Is Doing Your Thinking For You?
Did you know that all anger comes from fear and pain?
I know, anger sometimes feels powerful, and yet it is so often coming out of a sense of powerlessness. Nothing can move a person into anger more quickly than to take their power away.
So if like most people, your fear is doing your thinking for you, you're likely to feel angry way too much of the time.
- The trick here is to exercise the superpower of your mental focus and direct your thinking in the way that serves you and others in the very best way.
- Here you are stepping into the driver's seat of your brilliant mind/spaceship, and taking charge of your own thinking rather than letting it run amock in a reactive mode.
- When you shift your focus into the realm of intelligent, grounded optimism, you are literally optimizing the possibilities of positive outcomes in your life.
- Practice doesn't make perfect, but it creates new neural pathways in your brain, so that the more you choose intelligent optimism, the easier it becomes to continue.
- This what the practice of Goodfinding is all about.
So the problems that were upsetting you are still there, but instead of feeling angry (meaning afraid...), you are looking for possible positive outcomes, and moving forward in that direction.
Think of it this way...
When you use intelligent optimism as the guiding light of your thinking, you are stepping from victim mode into conscious creator mode.
William DeFoore |
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positive possiblities by reading and studying the book Goodfinding: A User's Guide to EQ and Your Brilliant Mind. The entire book is devoted to exactly that goal, and the ebook is on sale for only $.99.
Your mind is supposed to work for you, not against you.
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