Contents Of This Newsletter

• Why Do You Need Vulnerability?
• How Does It Help?
• Build Great Relationships
• Welcome To New Subscribers
• What's New on AngerManagementResource.com?

Why Do You Need Vulnerability?

Because it's the truth, and it shows courage and strength when you face the truth. It's the truth because everyone's vulnerable...it's part of our humanity.

Being vulnerable doesn't make you weak...hiding from your vulnerability does. We are all vulnerable. We are fragile beings living in an uncertain world where virtually anything can happen. That's life.

Here are some ways to understand your vulnerability:

• Whether you want to admit it or not, you have a tender heart. That's why those you love the most can hurt you the most.


• You will naturally try to protect your heart, and the point here is to be smart in how you do that.


• Anger, aggression and defensiveness are all efforts to protect your heart, but they can actually make things worse and cause you more pain.


• One of the best ways to protect your heart is to know your vulnerability, and be able to talk about it with openness and confidence.


• In a practical sense, this simply means being able to talk about your love, your pain, and your fear in an open and meaningful way.

You're only weak when you pretend you're not vulnerable at all, or if you get overwhelmed by your emotions of pain, sorrow or fear.

The goal here is to cover the skills needed to talk about your vulnerability in a way that brings you closer to those you love, and actually makes you and your relationships stronger in the process.

"Your greatest strength is in knowing yourself well enough to be vulnerable in a powerful way." William DeFoore

Self-awareness is the first component of emotional intelligence, and it's also the first step to reach the goals we're talking about here.

Now let's take a look at how you can get to know yourself better, and use your self-awareness to be both vulnerable and strong at the same time.

A Positive Attitude Is Key To Being Strong And Vulnerable

One of the best ways to create strength and vulnerability in your life is with support and encouragement from others. That's why we created the Goodfinding Community Online page.

Here are some specifics on how to be strong and vulnerable, on your own and in your relationships.

How Does Vulnerability Help?

No matter how big and strong you may seem, or how scary you are when you're angry, that kind of strength will leave you alone and unhappy. Anger and aggression push people away, and they come from fear.

What we all want most is to love and be loved, and that requires that we know how to express our more intimate emotions, that draw others closer instead of pushing them away.

Here are the steps you can take:

• Know your self, deep inside. Review your past with this journaling process, and that will give you the stories underlying all of your emotions...that's the subject matter of vulnerability.


• Be sure you have done enough emotional healing work so that you have the courage to be vulnerable without being overwhelmed by your emotions.


• Practice these communication skills with a friend or trusted family member, until you get confident in using them on your own.


• Start practicing some of this type of communication with your spouse, partner or significant other. Ideally, get them to learn the skills along with you. Like any tools or skills, the more you practice them, the easier they become.

Remember, being vulnerable is being honest. Pretending you feel something, while hiding other feelings, is just not as honest as being able to talk openly about your emotions.

Keep in mind that healthy vulnerability has nothing to do with making "you" statements about other people, where you're analyzing, criticising or judging another person. It's all about making "I" statements, such as "I feel sad/scared when..." or "I feel closest to you when..."

You are speaking from your heart, talking about your love, your deep emotions, and your desire for strong loving connection.

This highly effective audio program, available as a CD or MP3 download, will help you to deal with anger and disappointment in your relationships, and establish strong, positive expectations that will serve you and your partner well.

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