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Find Truth In Paradox by Dr. William DeFoore
October 15, 2024

Truth In Paradox
Will Free You From Toxic Anger





October 15, 2024
Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #197



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Contents of this newsletter




How Can Paradox Help Me?


Most anger comes from thinking you're right and somebody else is wrong.

That's what happens when you get stuck on one side of a paradox.

When you open your brilliant mind and your good heart to embrace the paradoxical truths and perspectives, you've moved from unbalanced to balanced, from cattywompus to homeostasis.

  • One common trigger for unhealthy anger is feeling threatened, which activates a weak and helpless victim feeling.

  • Nobody wants to feel like a helpless victim, but that happens to everyone at some time. The paradox here is that you are both helpless and powerful at the same time.

  • We are helpless to change other people, for example, but we are powerful in our ability to take responsible action to improve the situation.

  • You can also be right and wrong at the same time. You may be right about the facts or opinions you are expressing, but completely wrong about the timing and manner of your communication.

  • Remembering to examine the paradoxical truths of your situation before reacting can help you find a more balanced perspective, and ideally help you to have some empathy for the other person's viewpoint.

Give up the need to be right and step into the wisdom of seeing both sides of a situation, and you will find great relief, and much less anger.

Think of it this way...


We are all brilliant and complex, which is why we need to consider the paradox and not get stuck on one ego-defensive point.

William DeFoore


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