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It's all a matter of how you respond to it. And that's the idea...you need to respond to it instead of reacting to it.

Most people have a knee-jerk, unconscious reaction to their fear, which puts it in charge. When you understand your fear and what's behind it, you can use it to become stronger and safer.

Here's a quick overview of the process:

• Your basic fears are connected to survival, identity and love.


• They come up when your life (or the life of a loved one) is threatened, when you are at risk of embarrassment, and when you're afraid of losing the love and affection of a loved one.


• If you don't know or understand these fears, they rule you, causing you to do things that you really don't want to do (like have huge anger outbursts).


• By learning to understand your fears and heal the pain behind them, you transform the fear into vigilance and awareness, that make you stronger and safer.


• The final step is when you learn to develop healthy anger, which enables you to take powerful, effective action to protect yourself and create healthy relationships.

The two main focal points here are healing the pain behind the fear and developing healthy anger.

Now let's look at some steps you can take to transform your fear into vigilance and awareness.

Vigilance and awareness is cool. There's no two ways about it. You can be totally relaxed, calm and focused while being vigilant and aware. That is healthy fear.

Here are the steps:

1. First, make a list of your major fears. You have to be very honest with yourself here, because most of us are afraid of fear. It takes courage to face your fears, and pretending you don't have any fear will only make you weak and vulnerable to anybody who pushes your buttons.


2. Next, figure out what the story is behind each of your fears. Write this out, so that you really get focused on it.


3. Once you know what the story is, use these imagery processes to heal the pain behind your fear.


4. Then learn about healthy anger, and begin practicing the skills to use this powerful emotion to reach your positive goals in your life and relationships.


5. Finally, become a powerful, positive focuser by using this Goodfinding journaling process to stay aware of what is good, right and working in your life.

Imagine having all of the emotional energy of your fear and anger working for you instead of against you. That is true, healthy personal power.

Healthy fear is vigilance and awareness, and healthy anger is powerful effective action. That is all yours, for the asking. And it all lives inside you, your best anger management resource.